Yet another post from a FetLife thread. “I was tempted to let this go… but I’ll jump in First, my thoughts on the OP question. As a practical matter – what is the real difference between a Master and a Dominant? In short – if someone is called a Master and someone else is called  Read more »

I just posted this on a FetLife thread… but it is worth copying here. One of the things it means to break someone is simply this – in a contested battle of wills they finally internalize the realization that yours is the stronger. Obviously many, many dom / sub couples have this realization as part  Read more »

A recent Fetlife thread came up on the topic of when, and if, a collar should be removed. It was obviously bait, but the discussion went so wrong I had to put in my thoughts. I started responding to this thread in my usually way – grabbing quotes from folks and replying to them individually.  Read more »

The thread about safe calls is still happening over on FetLife. Here is my recent post on the topic. I have paraphrased those I am replying to so as not to betray any confidences. Some_Guy  lets us know it is a “wonder” that those people who don’t use safe calls are “still alive”. I know,  Read more »

Another day, another topic in FetLife. Since my previous post there today got trashed, I’ll put this one here for safe keeping. This one is in response to a thread about “safe calls”. If you want to have one and it will make you feel better – go for it. For many people the illusion  Read more »

I just put this up today at my protocol experiment site / wiki. Let me know what you think…   A catechism can be defined in many ways, but one of the most useful is as "a exposition or statement of doctrine". In short, a catchism is a shorthand to express the core of a  Read more »

In Philadelphia someone close to a good friend of mine has died in a horrible accident. You would think that such a incident would make everyone take a moment and step back. You would think that no one would try and use this sort of thing to further their own agenda, sell some books or  Read more »

A recent discussion on FetLife centered around the concept of “Leather Titles”. Below you will find both of my posts. I have edited out the words of others and paraphrased them. “I know some title holders who are good people and I know a bunch of them who are morons who happened to fuck the  Read more »

In a separate thread, someone made a comment that basically those of us who don’t use safewords are trying to be edgy and thus “hot” but that essentially we are all the same and in agreement. I can’t reproduce the quote exactly since the words of others in private forums are not for me to  Read more »

In a recent thread on FetLife, the topic of safewords reared it’s head again. Here was my contribution. “Whether the word is “tuna” or “stop!” the core component of a safe word is that when it is uttered the dominant / top is _obligated_ to take action, or at least take notice. In many cases  Read more »