Yet another post from a FetLife thread.
“I was tempted to let this go… but I’ll jump in :) First, my thoughts on the OP question.
As a practical matter – what is the real difference between a Master and a Dominant? In short – if someone is called a Master and someone else is called a [...]
I just posted this on a FetLife thread… but it is worth copying here.
One of the things it means to break someone is simply this – in a contested battle of wills they finally internalize the realization that yours is the stronger. Obviously many, many dom / sub couples have this realization as part [...]
A recent Fetlife thread came up on the topic of when, and if, a collar should be removed. It was obviously bait, but the discussion went so wrong I had to put in my thoughts.
I started responding to this thread in my usually way – grabbing quotes from folks and replying to them individually. [...]
The thread about safe calls is still happening over on FetLife. Here is my recent post on the topic. I have paraphrased those I am replying to so as not to betray any confidences.
Some_Guy lets us know it is a “wonder” that those people who don’t use safe calls are “still alive”.
I know, its like [...]
Another day, another topic in FetLife. Since my previous post there today got trashed, I’ll put this one here for safe keeping. This one is in response to a thread about “safe calls”.
If you want to have one and it will make you feel better – go for it. For many people the illusion of [...]
I just put this up today at my protocol experiment site / wiki. Let me know what you think…
A catechism can be defined in many ways, but one of the most useful is as "a exposition or statement of doctrine". In short, a catchism is a shorthand to express the core of a belief system. [...]
In Philadelphia someone close to a good friend of mine has died in a horrible accident. You would think that such a incident would make everyone take a moment and step back. You would think that no one would try and use this sort of thing to further their own agenda, sell some books or [...]
A recent discussion on FetLife centered around the concept of “Leather Titles”. Below you will find both of my posts. I have edited out the words of others and paraphrased them.
“I know some title holders who are good people and I know a bunch of them who are morons who happened to fuck the right [...]
In a separate thread, someone made a comment that basically those of us who don’t use safewords are trying to be edgy and thus “hot” but that essentially we are all the same and in agreement. I can’t reproduce the quote exactly since the words of others in private forums are not for me to [...]
In a recent thread on FetLife, the topic of safewords reared it’s head again. Here was my contribution.
“Whether the word is “tuna” or “stop!” the core component of a safe word is that when it is uttered the dominant / top is _obligated_ to take action, or at least take notice. In many cases when [...]
You should also go re-read my old post titled “Bang!”.
Continuing to capture some of my own posts for posterity… these were written about 3 months from the date of this post.
When talking about issues of human error, so many factors come into play it is staggering.
If I bet someone’s life every day that I had unloaded and verified a weapon then there is a [...]
In an old thread on Fetlife the topic of gunplay came up. Someone asked how risky it was, and how folks manage those risks. This was my reply, and it’s worth capturing here…
The actual risks fall into three categories. I’ll only really address two of them
The first is human error. It is possible to make [...]
In a recent thread on Fetlife.
on the idea that people in the BDSM community are to insecure to “speak up” about the plight of the novice who is “preyed upon”.
Really? If there has been a single recurring theme in all my time in the “community” it has been the incessant hand wringing and concern for [...]
A recent email discussion on Fetlife brought up this quotation again…
"I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine" – John Galt from Atlas Shrugged, page 676 by Ayn Rand
I have discussed it from the [...]
